Living in India isn’t easy; it has never been – neither for outsides nor for its own citizens. We may seem celebratory and full of life to the world outside, but only we know how suffocatingly uptight we are in our mindset. Here are 11 things we Indians really need to relax about!
1. The Aversion To Public Display Of Affection
We Indians want to keep everything under wraps. Most of us were brought up in a way that we feel ashamed about expressing our love to people. It is ironical how it is perfectly okay for people to hurl abuses and broadcast acts of violence in broad daylight – out on the roads, in public transport, and everywhere else, but totally unethical and uncultured to hug or kiss someone you love.
2. Inter-Religion Marriages
As preachy as it may sound, we’re people before we are Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs or Christians. It takes compatibility and understanding for a marriage to work, not common religious grounds. The practices and rituals may be different, but the heart is all the same. If you were to think of it, no religion would support discriminating against those with different beliefs. And no, supporting an inter-religion marriage doesn’t mean we’re bringing upon shame to our own religion.
It is appalling to see something as personal as sexual orientation and preference being everybody’s business in our country. Most of us have been brought up being told that homosexuality is against nature, and is an unforgivable sin. Supporting homosexuality may be a far-fetched dream, but let’s at least start by seeing them as normal people. Homosexuality is not a disease. No, supporting it won’t make you gay too. Homosexuality http://www.mensxp.com/special-features/today/21835-most-ridiculous-arguments-against-gay-love.html is not a ‘western trend’ (contrary to what most Indians think) that is up to us to follow or not. It’s a reality that we need to start accepting, and moreover, start respecting. In simpler words, being gay is as natural as being straight and there can be no justification to opposing it.
4. Gender Policing
Nothing can do more harm to an individual and a society more than gender policing. We need to stop telling people around us how to behave, what goes in accordance to their gender and what doesn’t. Sex and gender are different, and it is time we acknowledge it. Crying doesn’t make you any less of a man and you shall never want to bear children and still be no less of a woman. Dear Indian society, let people be.
5. Premarital Sex And Virginity
Creating an issue out of a girl’s virginity before marriage only proves to show that we consider a woman’s dignity and respect to reside in her genitals. Is that all a woman is – her vagina? Why is sex such a big taboo in India? And the problem doesn’t even end there. It’s much deeper rooted. One of the main reasons why rape victims feel outcaste is because they are constantly made to feel as if they have been robbed off their dignity and they’re no longer worthy of any respect.
6. Misandry In The Name Of Feminism
There’s no denying that India is becoming more and more unsafe every passing day, but is male-bashing the solution? Is it fair to see every man as a potential rapist? Not all men are rapists and not all women are victims. Feminism may help in the long run but what we have is nothing but misandry in its name. Let’s not turn the fight for women safety into a battle between the two sexes.
7. Sense of humour
Yes, we really need to loosen up. Be it political leaders or influential Bollywood celebrities or the Godmen – in India, you cannot voice your opinion on anything without the fear of getting banned from social media or riled up or put behind bars. Apparently, something as trivial as a character named Ram in a Bollywood film ‘Ram Leela’ is all it takes to hurt ‘religious sentiments’ in this country. We take pride in the fact that we’re a democracy, but where is the freedom of expression? Let’s learn to laugh a little at ourselves, shall we?
8. Career Choices
Like they say, in India, you pursue B.Tech or M.B.B.S. first and then decide what to do with your life. India’s obsession with engineering is simply unfathomable, so much so that any other profession seems like a wrong choice. Why is it that other professions are always looked down upon and considered not worthy of our time and efforts? Is the pay scale all that matters? We should really start embracing our uniqueness as individuals and do what we really want to, instead of conforming to conventions all our lives.
Religion in India is such a controversial topic that you never know what can be held against you. We’re not saying we do away with religious beliefs. Being religious is definitely something to be proud of, but only till you don’t force them upon others around. Whether one wants to conform to a certain religion or live free from it is a personal choice and should not be anyone else’s business. Ironically, India is a country where each religious sect demands to be respected but outrightly disrespects every other religious sect.
Talking of religion reminds us of India’s biggest fixation – Cricket. While most sportsmen go unnoticed for their feats, most real problems go unseen; it takes literally nothing in the Cricket world to make it to the headlines. And, there’s no denying that our aggression does go a little overboard while discussing it on social platforms. It’s just a game, after all.
11. Justification Of Rapes
We Indians excel when it comes to brushing the real issues under the carpet and making bizarre statements in compensation. From Chinese food to the length of a girl’s skirt to the colour of her lipstick to the time in the night – everything is to blame for rapes happening in the country, everything but the rapist. But truth be told, there is one and only one reason forrape – and that is the rapist itself. And, till the time we do not acknowledge that, there is no way out of this social issue for us, as a nation. Stop telling her to dress properly. Teach your son how to behave.